http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/ Ideas for Job Search, Career and Life Thu, 17 May 2012 04:04:59 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-609 Christina Sun, 10 Jan 2010 22:38:11 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-609 I would add "Staying on Target and Listening". A problematic scanario trying to help someone is if they get off subject and instead of discussing their work interests, they start talking about personal problems (need a job quickly to pay the bills, can't get a fair break, etc.). In addition, the person who is trying to help needs to be able to tell you their thoughts and ideas. If you spend too much time telling your story, and perhaps getting off track, not being a good listener will leave the other person wondering why they are there. I would add “Staying on Target and Listening”. A problematic scanario trying to help someone is if they get off subject and instead of discussing their work interests, they start talking about personal problems (need a job quickly to pay the bills, can’t get a fair break, etc.). In addition, the person who is trying to help needs to be able to tell you their thoughts and ideas. If you spend too much time telling your story, and perhaps getting off track, not being a good listener will leave the other person wondering why they are there.

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-6013 Christina Sun, 10 Jan 2010 22:38:00 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-6013 I would add "Staying on Target and Listening". A problematic scanario trying to help someone is if they get off subject and instead of discussing their work interests, they start talking about personal problems (need a job quickly to pay the bills, can't get a fair break, etc.). In addition, the person who is trying to help needs to be able to tell you their thoughts and ideas. If you spend too much time telling your story, and perhaps getting off track, not being a good listener will leave the other person wondering why they are there. I would add “Staying on Target and Listening”. A problematic scanario trying to help someone is if they get off subject and instead of discussing their work interests, they start talking about personal problems (need a job quickly to pay the bills, can’t get a fair break, etc.). In addition, the person who is trying to help needs to be able to tell you their thoughts and ideas. If you spend too much time telling your story, and perhaps getting off track, not being a good listener will leave the other person wondering why they are there.

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-608 Tim Tyrell-Smith Wed, 15 Jul 2009 05:33:14 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-608 Tracy - While you are underestimating what you can do for them, they are making the mistake of not networking with you (thinking that you can't help them or, even worse, being too proud to ask). It's never too late to start helping people! Tracy – While you are underestimating what you can do for them, they are making the mistake of not networking with you (thinking that you can’t help them or, even worse, being too proud to ask).
It’s never too late to start helping people!

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-6012 Tim Tyrell-Smith Wed, 15 Jul 2009 05:33:00 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-6012 Tracy - While you are underestimating what you can do for them, they are making the mistake of not networking with you (thinking that you can't help them or, even worse, being too proud to ask). It's never too late to start helping people! Tracy – While you are underestimating what you can do for them, they are making the mistake of not networking with you (thinking that you can’t help them or, even worse, being too proud to ask).
It’s never too late to start helping people!

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-607 Tim Tyrell-Smith Wed, 15 Jul 2009 05:30:28 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-607 Hi Sybil - Agree with you and very much like your definition of a good networking call. Thanks! Hi Sybil – Agree with you and very much like your definition of a good networking call. Thanks!

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-6011 Tim Tyrell-Smith Wed, 15 Jul 2009 05:30:00 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-6011 Hi Sybil - Agree with you and very much like your definition of a good networking call. Thanks! Hi Sybil – Agree with you and very much like your definition of a good networking call. Thanks!

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-606 Tracy M Sun, 12 Jul 2009 18:22:19 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-606 I found "How can I help you" a good reminder. Even though it's my nature to look out for others, when I talk to someone more experienced or more highly positioned than I am, I underestimate what I can do for them. It's a confidence problem, one I'm working on licking! Re: when you've helped someone who disappears on you, I agree that it's frustrating. However, I did some networking four years ago and couldn't follow up as well as I'd have liked because I fell ill for a very long time. Just a reminder that sometimes there's more going on than we can see. But other than difficult circumstances, yes, I'm right with you on the whole list. Thanks for putting it together! I found “How can I help you” a good reminder. Even though it’s my nature to look out for others, when I talk to someone more experienced or more highly positioned than I am, I underestimate what I can do for them. It’s a confidence problem, one I’m working on licking!
Re: when you’ve helped someone who disappears on you, I agree that it’s frustrating. However, I did some networking four years ago and couldn’t follow up as well as I’d have liked because I fell ill for a very long time. Just a reminder that sometimes there’s more going on than we can see. But other than difficult circumstances, yes, I’m right with you on the whole list. Thanks for putting it together!

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-6010 Tracy M Sun, 12 Jul 2009 18:22:00 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-6010 I found "How can I help you" a good reminder. Even though it's my nature to look out for others, when I talk to someone more experienced or more highly positioned than I am, I underestimate what I can do for them. It's a confidence problem, one I'm working on licking! Re: when you've helped someone who disappears on you, I agree that it's frustrating. However, I did some networking four years ago and couldn't follow up as well as I'd have liked because I fell ill for a very long time. Just a reminder that sometimes there's more going on than we can see. But other than difficult circumstances, yes, I'm right with you on the whole list. Thanks for putting it together! I found “How can I help you” a good reminder. Even though it’s my nature to look out for others, when I talk to someone more experienced or more highly positioned than I am, I underestimate what I can do for them. It’s a confidence problem, one I’m working on licking!
Re: when you’ve helped someone who disappears on you, I agree that it’s frustrating. However, I did some networking four years ago and couldn’t follow up as well as I’d have liked because I fell ill for a very long time. Just a reminder that sometimes there’s more going on than we can see. But other than difficult circumstances, yes, I’m right with you on the whole list. Thanks for putting it together!

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-605 sybil Wed, 17 Jun 2009 16:57:33 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-605 As a recruiter, I get tons of calls saying "I want to network with you, please call me back" and say little else. I'm in business too, and I'm doing a favor if such 'networking' doesn't enhance that business. I'm much more likely to do such favors if I get a preliminary email attaching a resume so I have some idea of the direction of the conversation and can schedule a mutually convenient time. Ultimately, a networking call needs to be as professional as a call to any other business associate - a clearly defined agenda, a respect for my time, and no assumption of entitlement. As a recruiter, I get tons of calls saying “I want to network with you, please call me back” and say little else. I’m in business too, and I’m doing a favor if such ‘networking’ doesn’t enhance that business. I’m much more likely to do such favors if I get a preliminary email attaching a resume so I have some idea of the direction of the conversation and can schedule a mutually convenient time. Ultimately, a networking call needs to be as professional as a call to any other business associate – a clearly defined agenda, a respect for my time, and no assumption of entitlement.

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-6009 sybil Wed, 17 Jun 2009 16:57:00 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-6009 As a recruiter, I get tons of calls saying "I want to network with you, please call me back" and say little else. I'm in business too, and I'm doing a favor if such 'networking' doesn't enhance that business. I'm much more likely to do such favors if I get a preliminary email attaching a resume so I have some idea of the direction of the conversation and can schedule a mutually convenient time. Ultimately, a networking call needs to be as professional as a call to any other business associate - a clearly defined agenda, a respect for my time, and no assumption of entitlement. As a recruiter, I get tons of calls saying “I want to network with you, please call me back” and say little else. I’m in business too, and I’m doing a favor if such ‘networking’ doesn’t enhance that business. I’m much more likely to do such favors if I get a preliminary email attaching a resume so I have some idea of the direction of the conversation and can schedule a mutually convenient time. Ultimately, a networking call needs to be as professional as a call to any other business associate – a clearly defined agenda, a respect for my time, and no assumption of entitlement.

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-604 Tim Tyrell-Smith Fri, 29 May 2009 07:03:03 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-604 Lori - I love the idea of a public thank you. Good one! Glad to have helped you, Lori. It was great meeting you over the phone! Lori – I love the idea of a public thank you. Good one!
Glad to have helped you, Lori. It was great meeting you over the phone!

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-6008 Tim Tyrell-Smith Fri, 29 May 2009 07:03:00 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-6008 Lori - I love the idea of a public thank you. Good one! Glad to have helped you, Lori. It was great meeting you over the phone! Lori – I love the idea of a public thank you. Good one!
Glad to have helped you, Lori. It was great meeting you over the phone!

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-603 lorikk@nycap.rr.com Thu, 28 May 2009 15:41:52 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-603 Tim, I'm not sure if this is a separate # but something I would add in the category of Thank You's. When you say "thank you" see if there is a way you can say that Thank You in a public way as a way to help them out (paying it forward) in recognizing their generosity and talents. Examples: LinkedIn, make a referral or if the person has a blog, make a comment, show your appreciation for their help -- most people don't "want" this kind of recognition but I bet they really do appreciate it. That being said: "Thank you Tim, for taking time out of your busy morning to talk with me the other day and help me brainstorm on some ideas, you gave me some great suggestions. Most importantly. You accepted my call - a stranger! You greeted me in a professional, friendly way and embraced my ideas with enthusiasm! You are really good at what you do! Thank you! All the best, Lori Tim,
I’m not sure if this is a separate # but something I would add in the category of Thank You’s. When you say “thank you” see if there is a way you can say that Thank You in a public way as a way to help them out (paying it forward) in recognizing their generosity and talents. Examples: LinkedIn, make a referral or if the person has a blog, make a comment, show your appreciation for their help — most people don’t “want” this kind of recognition but I bet they really do appreciate it. That being said:
“Thank you Tim, for taking time out of your busy morning to talk with me the other day and help me brainstorm on some ideas, you gave me some great suggestions. Most importantly. You accepted my call – a stranger! You greeted me in a professional, friendly way and embraced my ideas with enthusiasm! You are really good at what you do! Thank you!
All the best, Lori

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-6007 lorikk@nycap.rr.com Thu, 28 May 2009 15:41:00 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-6007 Tim, I'm not sure if this is a separate # but something I would add in the category of Thank You's. When you say "thank you" see if there is a way you can say that Thank You in a public way as a way to help them out (paying it forward) in recognizing their generosity and talents. Examples: LinkedIn, make a referral or if the person has a blog, make a comment, show your appreciation for their help -- most people don't "want" this kind of recognition but I bet they really do appreciate it. That being said: "Thank you Tim, for taking time out of your busy morning to talk with me the other day and help me brainstorm on some ideas, you gave me some great suggestions. Most importantly. You accepted my call - a stranger! You greeted me in a professional, friendly way and embraced my ideas with enthusiasm! You are really good at what you do! Thank you! All the best, Lori Tim,
I’m not sure if this is a separate # but something I would add in the category of Thank You’s. When you say “thank you” see if there is a way you can say that Thank You in a public way as a way to help them out (paying it forward) in recognizing their generosity and talents. Examples: LinkedIn, make a referral or if the person has a blog, make a comment, show your appreciation for their help — most people don’t “want” this kind of recognition but I bet they really do appreciate it. That being said:
“Thank you Tim, for taking time out of your busy morning to talk with me the other day and help me brainstorm on some ideas, you gave me some great suggestions. Most importantly. You accepted my call – a stranger! You greeted me in a professional, friendly way and embraced my ideas with enthusiasm! You are really good at what you do! Thank you!
All the best, Lori

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-602 Tim Tyrell-Smith Wed, 27 May 2009 05:44:09 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-602 Hi Sigmund. So, yes, I guess I really did miss one there. Thanks for reinforcing Clare's point. Hope to meet in person at the next LNC gathering . . . Hi Sigmund. So, yes, I guess I really did miss one there. Thanks for reinforcing Clare’s point. Hope to meet in person at the next LNC gathering . . .

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-6006 Tim Tyrell-Smith Wed, 27 May 2009 05:44:00 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-6006 Hi Sigmund. So, yes, I guess I really did miss one there. Thanks for reinforcing Clare's point. Hope to meet in person at the next LNC gathering . . . Hi Sigmund. So, yes, I guess I really did miss one there. Thanks for reinforcing Clare’s point. Hope to meet in person at the next LNC gathering . . .

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-601 Sigmund Fidyke Tue, 26 May 2009 16:46:39 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-601 Boy! You people get up way too early for me! I wholeheartedly agree with Clare. I have had this happen to me a number of times. You work together on job search ideas & tasks. Then they get a job and won't return your emails or calls. Hey! Remember me? I'm the other guy who's still looking for a job! Somehow this kills a relationship more than some of the other things on the list. Boy! You people get up way too early for me!
I wholeheartedly agree with Clare. I have had this happen to me a number of times. You work together on job search ideas & tasks. Then they get a job and won’t return your emails or calls.
Hey! Remember me? I’m the other guy who’s still looking for a job! Somehow this kills a relationship more than some of the other things on the list.

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-6005 Sigmund Fidyke Tue, 26 May 2009 16:46:00 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-6005 Boy! You people get up way too early for me! I wholeheartedly agree with Clare. I have had this happen to me a number of times. You work together on job search ideas & tasks. Then they get a job and won't return your emails or calls. Hey! Remember me? I'm the other guy who's still looking for a job! Somehow this kills a relationship more than some of the other things on the list. Boy! You people get up way too early for me!
I wholeheartedly agree with Clare. I have had this happen to me a number of times. You work together on job search ideas & tasks. Then they get a job and won’t return your emails or calls.
Hey! Remember me? I’m the other guy who’s still looking for a job! Somehow this kills a relationship more than some of the other things on the list.

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-600 Tim Tyrell-Smith Tue, 26 May 2009 12:52:50 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-600 Hi Clare and thank you. I really like your #10 - a great reminder about continuing to network! Hi Clare and thank you. I really like your #10 – a great reminder about continuing to network!

]]> http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/comment-page-1/#comment-6004 Tim Tyrell-Smith Tue, 26 May 2009 12:52:00 +0000 http://timsstrategy.com/9-ways-to-bruise-a-networking-relationship/#comment-6004 Hi Clare and thank you. I really like your #10 - a great reminder about continuing to network! Hi Clare and thank you. I really like your #10 – a great reminder about continuing to network!

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